HONESTY THE COSTLY MERIT
Honesty is one of the first ethical values that we plant on our children individuality and we always emphases this merit on different occasions and to any applicable situation. It is really ironic that when we come to this world, we are already born honest, simple and direct whenever we express our views or feelings to others. However, as we grow older we get contaminated and ruined ethically by people/situations around us; wither parents, relatives, neighbors or closed friends and amazingly we have the inclination to be destroyed ethically.
The dilemma is that we do not discuss with our children the "Price-Tag" that comes with this value which sometimes could be unforeseeable to meet or would require hefty expense to pay. The worst thing that could happen to a child is when he/she taught something by a guardian and the same guardian shows his/her dishonesty in a gruesome way. This ethical hypocrisy would raise its ugly head forever and cannot be redeemed by anyway possible on that child character. Now imagine that YOU woke-up one morning and decided that you will be honest no matter what it takes, I know that this is a suicidal thought but for the sake of this post, you decided to go "kamikaze" at least for one day. You will tell your wife that her cooking is awful, and your best friend is acting sometimes like a moron, and your daughter looks like a homeless child in her new dress; especially, when she comes to you leaping for joy asking for your HONEST opinion. Definitely only for the wife comment you would be an inmate on "death-raw"; how about, if you stand against the whole world for just simply being an "honest person". I am not encouraging a war against this indispensable worth, but we have to learn and preach to our children and also for people that we care for that is not as easy as it sounds.
We do not live in utopian world, for taking the RIGHT stand, it would be always so costly and so painful in many circumstances/situations. We have to know that it is really a monumental challenge to do/say the RIGHT thing regardless of the ramifications of our choices. In another word, it takes courage and charisma to be an honest person. You would need other critical and fundamental ingredients prior to declaring your honest stance. We always forget that when you BUILD a person, your child, he/she have to have an arsenal of skills and mindsets to be a GOOD person. My suggestion to you today is, do not look at one ethic, honesty for example, as a separate objective to achieve; but rather a building block that need a GOOD base to stand-on.
FOCUS ON THE BASE
YOU CANNOT BE HONEST ALL THE TIME, but definitely if you try hard enough, you can be honest MOST OF THE TIME.
Omar
Dhahran - Saudi Arabia
omar.ghamdi@gmail.com
The dilemma is that we do not discuss with our children the "Price-Tag" that comes with this value which sometimes could be unforeseeable to meet or would require hefty expense to pay. The worst thing that could happen to a child is when he/she taught something by a guardian and the same guardian shows his/her dishonesty in a gruesome way. This ethical hypocrisy would raise its ugly head forever and cannot be redeemed by anyway possible on that child character. Now imagine that YOU woke-up one morning and decided that you will be honest no matter what it takes, I know that this is a suicidal thought but for the sake of this post, you decided to go "kamikaze" at least for one day. You will tell your wife that her cooking is awful, and your best friend is acting sometimes like a moron, and your daughter looks like a homeless child in her new dress; especially, when she comes to you leaping for joy asking for your HONEST opinion. Definitely only for the wife comment you would be an inmate on "death-raw"; how about, if you stand against the whole world for just simply being an "honest person". I am not encouraging a war against this indispensable worth, but we have to learn and preach to our children and also for people that we care for that is not as easy as it sounds.
We do not live in utopian world, for taking the RIGHT stand, it would be always so costly and so painful in many circumstances/situations. We have to know that it is really a monumental challenge to do/say the RIGHT thing regardless of the ramifications of our choices. In another word, it takes courage and charisma to be an honest person. You would need other critical and fundamental ingredients prior to declaring your honest stance. We always forget that when you BUILD a person, your child, he/she have to have an arsenal of skills and mindsets to be a GOOD person. My suggestion to you today is, do not look at one ethic, honesty for example, as a separate objective to achieve; but rather a building block that need a GOOD base to stand-on.
FOCUS ON THE BASE
YOU CANNOT BE HONEST ALL THE TIME, but definitely if you try hard enough, you can be honest MOST OF THE TIME.
Omar
Dhahran - Saudi Arabia
omar.ghamdi@gmail.com
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